Disclaimer: this is not for actual villainy or for seeking harm on anyone else, it is simply for me because I tend to hold back and not take up the space that is even just normal for a person to take up living in a world of other people. So for me, stepping out of my comfort zone often causes me to feel like a villain. I've decided to embrace this and make it a bit more interesting for me to become a little freer as my genuine self.
1. Don't be stuck to schedules (schedules sometimes make me shut down because I start to doubt if I can actually stick to it. The unwelcome expectation that I put on myself doesn't actually help me do things sometimes.)
2. Delete things that give you stress (also related to schedules, but also goals. If it's not fun anymore, it won't be beneficial to keep forcing myself to do it. Instead pull back and focus on a single goal. And maybe that goal is just for decompression and healing)
3. Act on impulse (too often I talk myself out of acting on inspiration or things that I like because I'm worried that it won't go well, or I'll be a burden, or I'll get in other people's way. This is me giving myself permission to be a little impulsive.)
4. Start things you aren't going to finish (sometimes the idea of having to complete everything I start gets in the way of actually starting. I struggled with this since I was a kid. School projects or drawings would go unstarted or if I did manage to start, they would remain unfinished if I didn't manage to do it in one sitting. It was exhausting. I have learned though that even if I start something and then it sits unfinished for months, there's always a chance I might go back to it, and then it would only need a little more to finish it instead of trying to do the whole thing at once... that was wordy. I hope you get the picture.)
5. Dress how you like (yup ✨)
6. Social norms ≠ rules (too often I find myself believing that I have to act a certain way just cause everyone is doing it, or I've learned what is "normal" but girl! I'm not normal... I don't think any one is. We shouldn't be confined to these boxes society wants to put us in. Hence rule number 3... and 5... and 7... 😊)
7. Make other people uncomfortable (be yourself and communicate. Take up space. You are wonderful and deserving of love.)
8. Do it anyway (in case you start to talk yourself out of it, rule number 8 coming in clutch!)
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